Anne Eglinton Obituary (2021) – Hartford, CT
Anne McKinne “Kiki” (Heitkamp) Eglinton, 93, died on August 13, 2021, at the Seabury Life Retirement Community in Bloomfield, CT. Born in Cincinnati, OH, the daughter of the late Anne McKinne Rowland Stout and Frederick Benjamin Heitkamp, Sr, she lived in the Hartford area for more than 50 years. She also spent time at her family’s tree farm, Melrose, in Clark’s Hill, SC. She was educated at the Cherry Lawn School, Darien CT; the International School, Geneva Switzerland; Oberlin College; and (Case) Western Reserve University, where she received her Master of Social Work Administration. She married Arthur Dale Wolf in 1951. Kiki had a passion for service, as evidenced by her involvement in many community activities throughout her life. While in college she participated in an overseas work camp hosted by the American Friends Service Committee. In the Hartford area she served as President of the League of Women Voters of Newington, co-chaired the legislative observer program for the State League, and was a League member and active volunteer for over 50 years until a stroke suffered in 2015 limited future participation. She was a League representative to the Town Meeting for Tomorrow, a major initiative to encourage capitol region planning and cooperation. She was a board member of the Women’s League Day Care Center and the Family Service Society, for which she served two years as president. She was a West Hartford representative to the Capitol Region Planning Agency. Kiki was a member of the Hartford Friends Meeting (Quaker), a community vital to her spiritual life and sense of community. As part of a group from Friends Meeting, in the late 1960s she joined the effort to start a bail bond fund and program with the Council of Churches to monitor police activity during community riots. She was also part of the inaugural team of community leaders that created Greater Hartford Group Homes, an effort to house adjudicated adolescent youths. In 1971 she was named executive director of the Family Service Society (FSS) of Hartford. Under her leadership services were added or expanded, including the Crisis Intervention Support Unit, a joint program with the Hartford Police Department responding to domestic violence calls; Plays for Living (a collaborative effort with the other family service agencies), and elderly and home care services. She was integral to listing the Webster Memorial building, FSS’s home facing Bushnell Park, on the National Register of Historic Places. Kiki served on a statewide committee that developed regulations for the licensure of home care agencies. She was appointed by Governor Ella Grasso as a public member to the Council on Human Services. As a member of the National Association of Social Workers, (NASW) she chaired its state licensure committee. She married Douglas Eglinton in 1979 and relocated to Pelham NY in 1980. She was the executive director of the 7,000-member New York City Chapter of the NASW from 1980 – 85 as advocate for members and their professional and legislative concerns. In 1985 she was named executive director of Family Service of Westchester, NY, from which she retired in 1993. She was active at the local, state, and national levels of the family service movement, serving as a board member of Family Service America. She was president of the N.Y. State Association of Family Service agencies and was a peer reviewer for the Council on Accreditation for Services to Families and Children. As a member of Scarsdale (NY) Friends Meeting (SFM), in retirement Kiki served on the board of Kendal on Hudson, a retirement community based on Quaker values. She was also active with SFM’s prison visitation and mentoring program. She returned to Hartford in 1998 and became a volunteer consultant with the National Executive Service Corps of Central Connecticut. Kiki was a loyal alumna of Oberlin College, serving on the Alumni Council, as class president, and as Regional Coordinator for Westchester County and Southern Connecticut alumni activities. In 2006 she moved to the Seabury Retirement Community in Bloomfield, CT, where she made new and close friends, and enjoyed participation in a variety of committees, especially those that had peace, justice and environmental issues as their focus. In addition to her professional and volunteer accomplishments Kiki was a devoted friend and mentor to many. A warmly relational person, she delighted in corresponding and visiting with the people with whom she cultivated close and meaningful relationships across the spectrum of her life. Cousins, colleagues, and others with whom she connected enriched mutually committed friendships. She is survived by her children, Jamie Wolf (Barbara) of Farmington, CT, and their son Jesse; Anne McKinne Fraley (Kenneth) of South Windsor, CT, and Timothy Wolf (Linda Pagani). She was predeceased by her brother, Frederick B. Heitkamp, Jr. his wife, Helen, and her sister, Jane Heitkamp Cudlipp. Other survivors include sisters Shirley Heitkamp Wilson and Susan Stout Baker, and her brother-in-law Pete Cudlipp. She is also survived by nieces, nephews, cousins, step-family, and extended family with whom she felt deep kinship. Her marriages to Arthur Wolf and Douglas Eglinton ended in divorce. A memorial service will be held at a future date. In lieu of flowers, Kiki may be honored through contributions made to Hartford Friends Meeting, 144 South Quaker Lane, West Hartford, CT 06119; Oberlin College, Development Office, Bosworth Hall, 50 West College Street, Oberlin, OH 44074; Friends Committee on National Legislation, 245 2nd St. NE, Washington, DC 20002; or Seabury Retirement Community Foundation, 200 Seabury Drive, Bloomfield, CT 06002.
Published by Hartford Courant on Aug. 16, 2021.